Live and Learn

Sometimes when we are not sure of exactly what we want, we first have to learn what we don't want. Thus the term "Experience is one thing you can't get for nothing."

My perfect partner is capable of and willing to develop and nurture true intimacy and communication. I have not seen much of that in humanity, and even less in men, yet I continue to see evidence that they are out there. He is educated, responsible and has a full time job and a sense of purpose on the planet. But makes time in his life for relationships, fun, and romance. He is compassionate towards others, and cares about the well being of others including me, as much as himself. He is chivalrous, but not at all chauvinistic.

He has a variety of interests and healthy hobbies, and is happy to share them with me when I show an interest as well. He enjoys taking me places I have never been before. He never tires of pleasing and impressing me. He loves my shyness and my sense of adventure and enjoys indulging it in every way. Even after the "honey moon phase." I feel very valued, seen, and special to him and he loves knowing that. And loves and values the ways I spoil and strive to please him in return.

He takes steps to maintain good health and is not a smoker. He is not a stoner, or drug addict. He has a healthy, balanced "take it or leave it" attitude towards technology, sports, and drinking. He does not gamble and respects nature and wildlife. He enjoys and respects me for who I am and does not hesitate to tell me the things he loves about me. He genuinely likes my company.

He likes to talk to me, and share his real self, and inner thoughts and feelings so I can truly know him. I never have to beg for affection, because he loves me deeply, and loves kissing me. We make out all the time. He makes the time to make love leisurely and thoroughly and makes my pleasure more important then his own. He is not bored, worn out, or used up sexually, and is excited to share that part of our relationship with me specifically. He frequently steps outside himself to ensure that I am always having a good time no matter where we go, or what we are doing.